As a mother of three I’ve learned a few things. One of those few is that toddlers mix up the words Yes and No. When you ask a toddler would you like cookies? the answer is going to be YES!!!…… and if they say no and you put the cookies away, the inevitable happens. Baby tears begin to flow like Rivers and the shrieking sounds of their screams begin to pierce your ears. As parents you begin to understand that to children “Yes and No” are interchangeable. They are simply an answer to a question being asked and quite frankly they have a 50% chance of getting it right!
So, What happens when grown ups mix up yes and no?
Have you ever met someone who volunteers for something all of the time and you can count down the minutes to when you are going to get the dreaded “I’m so sorry” call? Or when you finally decided to give that friend the benefit of the doubt and they show up empty-handed, again. The truth is we have all been there!
Unfortunately, these people, at the time, may have believed that they would come through. They perhaps even considered saying No, but, they didn’t see the big difference either way. To them it was just an answer and the outcome was to be determined by their emotions later on. Individuals with this mentality often don’t see the bigger picture and don’t understand the true outcome of their actions. In 1st Corinthians 13:11 it says
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when i became a man, I put away childish things.
Those that continue to put themselves in situations where their Yes, is regularly a No, are still thinking as a child. They have not come to the understanding that their word is a weapon of warfare. That the enemy will use their immaturity to his advantage. In fact this is even a selfish way of being (Yes, I said selfish) and will eventually lead to broken friendships, relationships and trust. As believers it’s imperative that we are men and women of our word. That when we say Yes, we mean Yes, and we follow through. When we say we will be somewhere at 10am are there at 10am. Not 10:05am. Not 10:15am but 10am. WHY? because you agreed, because you said yes, Because in Matthew 5:37 it says
Matthew 5:37 But let your Yes, mean Yes, and your No, mean No. Anything more than this is from the evil one.
In other words keep it simple. If you said yes to something DO IT! If you said no to something DON’T DO IT! Stop complicating your life and inconveniencing others with being indecisive and immature. Maybe the person I’m referring to is you. Maybe you’re the one who is always late or just changes their mind last-minute. Well, if you are; take action towards improvement. Think about what it will take for you to follow through if you are leaning towards Yes, BEFORE you COMMIT to it…..AND if you say No, understand it is OK! YES, It is OK, to say NO! Just because you are a good friend, a christian, a mom, or a dad etc. that does not mean you are not allowed to say No. In fact, it’ll probably do you some good. Put things into perspective either way. Lead by example and allow your words to mean something.
In His Love,
Mrs. Noso xoxo
Simply Sincere 